In my 20s, I took part in an exercise where I had to name my grandiose dream. Four decades later, it’s finally coming true. How did I make it happen? Belief, boldness, focus – and probably some magic!
My mom provided me a rich spiritual upbringing. She studied with the Rosicrucian Order, belonged to Unity, and sometimes had psychics over for séances – while at the same time making sure that we went to traditional church three times a week.
I just wanted to be like the other kids at school, so I tried to keep the goofy stuff a secret. Still, I couldn’t deny how true it rang.
Later, I found my own foothold in mind-body-spirit, particularly in interfaith spirituality, where people of all faiths can worship alongside each other. And in my 20s, it was natural to find a spiritual teacher, whose work I eventually compiled into a book called The Wisdom of Solomon.
My teacher once asked a group of us to write down our grandiose dreams. My dream was to be “a great communicator of universal spiritual principles in mainstream language.”
It wasn’t going to be easy. As a child, I was timid and quiet, not even initiating conversations before age six. And in school, I never received encouragement for writing. And certainly not for speaking. So how was I going to become a great communicator?
This is how I made my dream come true.
Step one: Forget about what other people think.
I recorded my grandiose dream in 1985, and I never told anyone about it. I’d like to say that I didn’t want to disperse the energy. But it was really because I believed people would think I was an idiot. Of course, that blocked me because we can’t manifest what we want until we believe in its possibility and in our own deservability. So I had to let go of that belief.
There were lots of people along the way who wanted me to jump through their hoops because they believed it would make them feel better. But when I made their hoops more important than doing what made me feel good, I wasn’t listening to my own inner guidance for how to reach my goal.
It isn’t feasible for any of us to have two destinations – ours and someone else’s. And staying on target means believing that many of the answers we need are inside us, while not becoming sidetracked by what’s on the outside.
Step two: Be bold.
One of my friends founded a company and then sold it thirteen years later for twelve million dollars. He said that the most important thing he had going for him was boldness.
In my experience, doubt often blocked me. I would have an inspired thought that felt like this: “I have this inner knowing, and I have this clear vision that I want to move toward, and I feel compelled.” And then right behind that thought would come doubt about how in the world I could do it!
There is some part, in all of us, that knows we can create whatever we want. It takes feelings of expectation and anticipation, which are not cancelled out by feelings of unworthiness or doubt.
Step three: Stay focused.
Grandiose dreams require grandiose focus.
That meant not taking my eyes off my target, while at the same time feeling peaceful about wherever I was in the moment. It was all right to be only halfway, as long as I looked forward and not backward.
It meant keeping my energy, talents and commitment pointed in the direction I wanted to go. The dream had to be my life purpose.
Like I said, forty years have passed since I decided on my grandiose dream. Now, I can see that I kept the dream as a priority, even when my life was filled with unrelated people and activities. I kept writing, always getting a little better. And I kept studying and practicing spiritual principles, so I was constantly learning.
And finally in 2015, I managed to get 25,000 shares in just a few days on an article about the five stages of relationships, where being together is based on real love and shared purpose, rather than need.
For me, I was finally fulfilling my grandiose dream. And I didn’t see this coming – it’s only the beginning!
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