All posts tagged: communications

The Most Important Decision We Make As Parents

The future depends on how we parent, so it’s our biggest responsibility. Too bad there’s no manual or required training. Here’s a key though. The most important thing we can do for our kids is to be good to ourselves, to enjoy life, and to […]

Let’s Let Our Partners Off The Hook

I met my first husband when we were in our early 20s, and I thought he was a young god. But when we married, neither of us was prepared. His father had died when he was four, and his mother when he was twelve – […]

What Language Is My Child Speaking?

As a mother of three boys, I would sometimes ask them during their adolescent years, “Are you practicing to be ventriloquists? Is that why you don’t open your mouths when you speak?” Eventually, I realized that, since teenagers are often expected to stop saying what […]

Kids Know That Love Is Unconditional, Even When We Forget

We never outgrow the basic need we had as children for love, expressed through concentrated attention, affection and unconditional acceptance. And we’re all walking around looking for it, all the time. Conditional acceptance doesn’t exist because love has no gray areas. And to love someone […]

We Teach People How To Treat Us

One of my friends is regularly triggered by his wife. There’s one thing in particular that she does, which he habitually takes personally and then responds by acting as he’s been offended. She talks over him while he’s talking, especially in conversations with their friends. […]

5 Steps For Disciplining So That Our Kids Feel Good At The End

What does a perfect child look like? Well-behaved, well-mannered, honest and thoughtful? Never dirty, unkind or angry? A perfect child is happy, rude, mischievous, helpful, stubborn, curious, rebellious, funny, lazy and adorable – because perfect children are trying out everything. And they’re learning and growing […]

Why “Romance Phase” Doesn’t Last

Romance phase is, by nature, temporary. And it often ends painfully. Like yanking a band-aid off – skin, scab and all. My husband and I had a fabulous romance phase. I was helping to renovate a building and spending a lot of time in the […]