All posts tagged: communications

Our Perceptions Are Planning Our Future

When I was nine, the poorest girl in my fourth grade class invited all of us to her birthday party, and everyone expressed excitement and agreed to come. On the day of the party, my best friend and I arrived on time, greeted her family, […]

10 Things Good Communicators Do Well

1. They maintain their integrity. That means knowing what their true intention is, and saying and doing that instead of something else. My husband, Ron, was an altar boy from age seven to seventeen. Toward the end, he felt disheartened that so many churchgoers seemed […]

What Inspires Our Emotions?

One of my friends lost out on a promotion at work and felt betrayed by his company. And from that point on, he made sure to include a hint of his feeling of betrayal in every internal company message. He didn’t want anyone to not […]

9 Things Our Children Need To Know

1. They are innately loved, lovable and loving. Our children need to feel that they matter to us, that they’re needed, and that they contribute to the quality of our lives. They need to feel useful. When I was a single parent, our toilet seat broke […]

Marathon-Communicating With Our Children

When my son turned thirteen, I asked two-dozen of our friends who had known him throughout his life to write their memories and encouraging words for him in a book, and he still has it today. I wanted to send him an empowering message of […]

The Most Important Decision We Make As Parents

The future depends on how we parent, so it’s our biggest responsibility. Too bad there’s no manual or required training. Here’s a key though. The most important thing we can do for our kids is to be good to ourselves, to enjoy life, and to […]

Let’s Let Our Partners Off The Hook

I met my first husband when we were in our early 20s, and I thought he was a young god. But when we married, neither of us was prepared. His father had died when he was four, and his mother when he was twelve – […]

What Language Is My Child Speaking?

As a mother of three boys, I would sometimes ask them during their adolescent years, “Are you practicing to be ventriloquists? Is that why you don’t open your mouths when you speak?” Eventually, I realized that, since teenagers are often expected to stop saying what […]

Kids Know That Love Is Unconditional, Even When We Forget

We never outgrow the basic need we had as children for love, expressed through concentrated attention, affection and unconditional acceptance. And we’re all walking around looking for it, all the time. Conditional acceptance doesn’t exist because love has no gray areas. And to love someone […]