All posts tagged: real love

9 Things Our Children Need To Know

1. They are innately loved, lovable and loving. Our children need to feel that they matter to us, that they’re needed, and that they contribute to the quality of our lives. They need to feel useful. When I was a single parent, our toilet seat broke […]

Leap Year Magic

I proposed to my husband on Leap Year Day. That’s when tradition says that girls can ask boys. And Ron said Yes. We didn’t take any action at first. Then seven months later, he proposed to me, and I said Yes. With two Yeses, you […]

33 Fast Facts About Love

In every interaction, we’re all asking the same question: “Will you show me what real love is?” Whether we’re creating a special dinner or starting an argument, we’re looking for an opportunity to share love. If we don’t love ourselves first, no one else will […]

Why “Romance Phase” Doesn’t Last

Romance phase is, by nature, temporary. And it often ends painfully. Like yanking a band-aid off – skin, scab and all. My husband and I had a fabulous romance phase. I was helping to renovate a building and spending a lot of time in the […]

Finding Love Is An Inside Job

My husband and I are in our 25th year together. Soon after we met, when we were just becoming acquainted as friends, I felt nauseas one day. Ron’s a doctor and he wanted to help, so he offered to gently stick his finger down my throat […]

3 Steps For Making Grandiose Dreams Come True

In my 20s, I took part in an exercise where I had to name my grandiose dream. Four decades later, it’s finally coming true. How did I make it happen? Belief, boldness, focus – and probably some magic! My mom provided me a rich spiritual […]

How Do We Make Sure We Matter?

One Valentine’s Day, my husband was scheduled to present a management training in our town of Zeist, in the Netherlands. I knew the building Ron would be using: the Hotel Theater Figi. And I even knew the meeting room, on the second floor with big […]

5 Steps For Fighting Fair

Conflict is normal in relationships, and perfect compatibility only happens in fairytales. But knowing how to fight fair can lead us to a happy ending. The first requirement is a supportive environment. So we need to make two agreements right up front. First, that a […]

3 Steps For Getting What We Want From Others

As a single parent raising three boys, I often felt outnumbered, outsmarted and outrun. I had two rules I didn’t bend on though. Don’t go in my purse, and don’t talk to me through the bathroom door. The bathroom was my sanctuary where they couldn’t […]