If we’re ever unkind to people, just because they’re unkind to us, returning like for like, we’re usually left with an uncomfortable feeling that lets us know it wasn’t our best response to the situation. It was a fear-based, defensive response, because we’ve learned to […]
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Disciplining Children Is More Than Changing Their Behavior
I recently overheard my son say something to his child, and I had the sense that it wouldn’t work out well for them. It wasn’t serious. Just one of those statements we make to our kids, subtly manipulating them to do what we want them to […]

Why Guilt Doesn’t Work
The summer that I was nine, I begged my parents to let me attend our church’s residential camp. The requirement for a discounted rate was to read The New Testament by a certain date, so I committed to do it. I procrastinated for weeks and […]

5 Steps For Disciplining Children So They Feel Good At The End
What does a perfect child look like? Well-behaved, truthful and thoughtful? Never dirty, unkind or grumpy? A perfect child is joyous, mischievous, rude, stubborn, curious, lazy, courteous, rebellious, reckless, funny, helpful and adorable, because perfect children are experimenting with whatever’s possible. KIDS AREN’T BORN KNOWING […]