The immediacy and relevancy of the vast amount of information coming at us now has made desk chair activists out of many of us. We feel a need to do something. So we often protest things by detailing what’s wrong, and what’s not working, and […]
HuffPost Interview: Parenting In A Blended Family
I became a Contributor to HuffPost in 2015. And after posting more than sixty-five articles about effective living through focused thought, HuffPost asked to interview me for its Blended Family Feature. HP: How many family members do you have? Grace: My husband, Ron, and I share four […]
Who’s Training Our Expectations?
People comprise endless possibilities. And whatever we see in them is a reflection of what’s active in us concerning them. So it helps to understand where we’re coming from, in our behavior toward others. Are we reacting from autopilot, based on expectations that people have […]
My Main Takeaway From Visiting Qumran
In my 20s, I lived on a kibbutz in Israel. I first considered leaving America and moving to Israel when I was working in a school for children with special needs in Atlanta, where I became close friends with a 65-year-old foster mother of several […]
Kids Need To Know That Life Is Supportive By Nature
The future depends on how we parent, so it’s our biggest responsibility. Unfortunately, there’s no manual or required training. Here’s a key though. An important thing we can do for our kids is to be good to ourselves, to enjoy life, and to be adventurous, […]
How Can We Get Our Partners To Care What We Want?
One of my friends believes that her husband should have more photos of her on his social media site, and she feels bad about it. Her mistake is in thinking that those two things are connected – his action and her feeling – because attaching […]
Managing A Late-Life Autism Diagnosis
On a recent birthday post, I wrote that it’s been an auspicious year. And that, “It feels as though I’ve been putting a jigsaw puzzle together all my life, and I just looked under the table and found a bunch of missing pieces, and I […]
3 Steps For Training Win-Win Relationships
We’re continually training people how to treat us through our response to their behavior. And if we don’t like what we’re receiving, it’s sometimes easier to blame others for what they’re doing rather than unravel how we’ve trained them. With conscious, deliberate attention though, we […]
“If You’d Change, I’d Feel Better.”
On a trip to Spain a few years ago, my husband and I landed in Madrid and went straight to the car rental desk, where the employee who was helping us looked at Ron’s full name on his passport and laughed out loud. Then she […]
20 Tips For Transforming A “Difficult” Relationship
“Difficult” relationships are about self-love and self-worth – ours, not theirs. We’ve set causes in motion, and we’re experiencing the results. So our problems are not originating outside of us. Our partners aren’t broken, and it’s not our job to fix them. Relating is like […]
5 Steps For Fighting Fair
Conflict is normal in relationships, and perfect compatibility only happens in fairytales. But knowing how to fight fair can lead us to a happy ending. The first requirement is a supportive environment. So we need to make two agreements right up front. First, that a […]
There’s Power In Our Perceptions
As a single parent of three sons, the license plate on my car read BOYSNI, because most of my statements seemed to begin with, “The boys ’n I….” But after seven years, my girlfriend said to me, “Grace, if you don’t lose that license plate, […]
World AIDS Day
December 1 is World AIDS Day, designated since 1988 as an international day dedicated to raising awareness of the AIDS pandemic caused by the spread of the HIV infection. It’s also an opportunity to mourn those who have died of the disease. HIV stands for […]
