Celebrating 10 years since publishing The Wisdom of Solomon! I compiled this book from my spiritual teacher’s work on the practical application of commonsense metaphysics, esoteric wisdom and sacred mysteries. And everything I write today is a result of my lifelong study of his teachings. The Wisdom […]
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Every Argument Begins With The Second Sentence
One of our most valuable tools in relating to other people is the ability to argue effectively. And even before red-hot issues reach the level of an argument, there are steps we can take for handling conflict, including three necessary elements for reaching resolution. The […]
A Perfect Partner Isn’t Supposed To Be Perfect
My first husband and I divorced after eleven years. I believed that getting a divorce would end my problems with him. Big surprise! Divorce ended the marriage but not the problems. I took them with me and continued resolving them through other people. Divorce can […]
Committing To Love
One evening more than three decades ago, my Dutch husband, Ron, left the Haarlem hospital where he was a Resident and headed to Rotterdam for a Paul Winter concert in Sint-Laurenskerk, a gothic basilica from the 15th century. He didn’t know it yet, but he […]
How To Get Our Partners To Care What We Want
One of my friends believes that her husband should have more photos of her on his social media site, and she feels bad about it. Her mistake is in thinking that those two things are connected, his action and her feeling, because attaching a feeling […]
3 Steps For Training Win-Win Relationships
One of my friends is stuck in a years-long pattern with his wife. She talks over him while he’s talking, especially in front of their friends. He can’t stand it and protests by saying, “I won’t put up with this! You can’t treat me like […]
20 Keys For Transforming A “Difficult” Relationship
“Difficult” relationships are about self-worth and self-love – ours, not theirs. We’ve set causes in motion, and we’re experiencing the results. So our problems aren’t originating outside of us. Our partners aren’t broken, and it’s not our job to fix them. Relating is similar to […]
5 Steps For Fighting Fair
Conflict is normal in relationships, and perfect compatibility only happens in fairytales. But knowing how to fight fair can lead us to a happy ending. The first requirement is a supportive environment. So we need to make two agreements right up front. First, that a […]
Finding Love Is An Inside Job
Soon after Ron and I met, when we were just becoming acquainted as friends, I felt nauseas one day. Ron’s a doctor, and he wanted to help. So he offered to stick his finger down my throat to make me throw up. “Wow!” I thought. “This […]
“If You Leave Me Tonight, Do You Mind If I Come With You?”
Breakups are often heartbreaking, with inevitable feelings of pain and loss. We often want to hold on, even when it’s not good for us. Being with the person can seem more appealing than being alone. When a couple shares love, respect and kindness born out […]
Cross My Heart And Hope To Die!
When Ron’s daughter was ten, she walked into a local restaurant in our town in the Netherlands and asked the Greek owner whether he would sell her an over-sized wooden rosary that he’d brought from his homeland and hung behind the sales register. She knew […]
Love Is Like A Marathon
Our daughter-in-law qualified for the Boston Marathon by running in a local marathon, just making it, by an amazing three seconds! She was really hurting the last five miles. A stranger saw her and began to walk-run alongside her, subtly encouraging her. She could hardly […]
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