All posts filed under: Living Well

Every Argument Begins With The Second Sentence

One of our most valuable tools in relating to other people is the ability to argue effectively. And even before red-hot issues reach the level of an argument, there are steps we can take for handling conflict, including three necessary elements for reaching resolution. The […]

Manifesting What We Want

In my 30s, I attended a workshop with peak-performance coach, Tony Robbins. He began the first evening by saying to the audience, “Do what you’ve always done, and you’ll keep getting what you’ve always gotten.” Then he invited us to do something unique and extraordinary […]

Being Deliberately Conscious

One of my friends lost out on a promotion at work and felt betrayed by his company. Then he kept talking about being abused, because he didn’t want anyone to forget what had happened to him. And if anyone encouraged him to consider a different […]

5 Steps To A Better Future

In my 20s, I took part in an exercise where I had to identify my “grandiose dream.” And four decades later, it seems to be coming true. It took belief, boldness, focus and maybe some magic! My dream was to be “a good communicator of […]

Deciding About Love

One evening more than three decades ago, Ron left the Haarlem hospital where he was a Resident and headed to Rotterdam for a Paul Winter concert in Sint-Laurenskerk, a gothic basilica from the 15th century. He didn’t know it yet, but he was rushing to […]

Life’s Three Acts

During my years as a single parent, there were times when we ate oatmeal for dinner because it was what we had. And there were times when I kept the school proofs because I couldn’t afford to buy the actual photos. And there was one […]

Who’s Training Our Expectations?

People comprise endless possibilities. And whatever we see in them reflects what’s active in us concerning them. So it helps to understand where we’re coming from, in our behavior toward people. Are we reacting from autopilot, based on expectations that they’ve trained us toward? Or […]

My Main Takeaway From Visiting Qumran

In my 20s, I lived on a kibbutz in Israel. I first considered leaving America and moving to Israel when I was working in a school for children with special needs in Atlanta, where I became close friends with a 65-year-old foster mother of several […]

How To Help The People We Love

The immediacy and relevancy of the vast amount of info coming at us now has made desk chair activists out of many of us. We feel a need to do something. So we often protest things by detailing what’s wrong, and what’s not working, and […]

Managing A Late-Life Autism Diagnosis

I feel as though I’ve been putting a jigsaw puzzle together all my life, and I just looked under the table and found a pile of missing pieces, and I can put them into the puzzle and finally see what the picture is. An autism […]

3 Steps For Training Win-Win Relationships

One of my friends is stuck in a years-long pattern with his wife. She talks over him while he’s talking, especially in front of their friends. He can’t stand it and protests by saying, “I won’t put up with this! You can’t treat me like […]