All posts tagged: Arguing effectively

Let’s Let Our Partners Off The Hook

I met my first husband when we were in our early 20s, and I thought he was a young god. But when we married, neither of us was prepared. His father had died when he was four, and his mother when he was twelve – […]

We Teach People How To Treat Us

One of my friends is regularly triggered by his wife. There’s one thing in particular that she does, which he habitually takes personally and then responds by acting as he’s been offended. She talks over him while he’s talking, especially in conversations with their friends. […]

5 Steps For Fighting Fair

Conflict is normal in relationships, and perfect compatibility only happens in fairytales. But knowing how to fight fair can lead us to a happy ending. The first requirement is a supportive environment. So we need to make two agreements right up front. First, that a […]