One of my friends keeps talking about leaving his wife. The two of them are great together when they’re good. But they stink when they’re bad, because each of them makes it all about the other. He spends a lot of time in stage three […]
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Love And Jealousy Can’t Coexist
One of my friends has a husband who adores her, and he’s loyal to his core. But she feels jealous and tries to control him. So he behaves cautiously. He avoids being alone with women and avoids talking to them in her presence. But because […]
Why Do We Experience Conflict?
If we’re on our second marriage – and it’s working well, and we’ve grown wiser, and we’re living a rich experience – we’re not likely to look back and wish that we’d made it work with our first partner. But we are likely to look […]
We Teach People How To Treat Us
We’re constantly training people in how to treat us. When we show them that a certain word or look from them will get a consistent reaction from us, we’re training them to use that word or look whenever they want that reaction. And when we’ve […]
15 Keys For Loving And Being Loved
In every interaction, whether we’re creating a special dinner or starting an argument, we’re searching for an opportunity to share love. Whether we love ourselves affects everything else in life, including our relationships, career, finances and health. Loving ourselves means not holding someone else responsible […]
Why Romance Phase Doesn’t Last
During romance phase, life is perfect for everyone. We’re on our best behavior, because we want to impress each other. We begin the relationship thinking, “It makes me feel so good when you adore and appreciate me. So I’m going to show you only my […]
Gifting And Getting Feedback
I was sitting in our yard one day when my seven-year-old son came out of the house and sat beside me. I kept looking at his face, thinking something looked different. Then I realized he’d shaved off his eyebrows. And I was really at a […]
How Many People Does It Take To Make A Marriage?
Our daughter-in-law earned a postgraduate placement in a dietician internship, and everyone was thrilled for her. But we wondered how she and my son would manage the care of their newborn son if she quit work and went back to school. So we rallied around […]
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