All posts tagged: perspective

Who’s Training Our Expectations?

People comprise endless possibilities. And whatever we see in them reflects what’s active in us concerning them. So it helps to understand where we’re coming from, in our behavior toward people. Are we reacting from autopilot, based on expectations that they’ve trained us toward? Or […]

How To Help The People We Love

The immediacy and relevancy of the vast amount of info coming at us now has made desk chair activists out of many of us. We feel a need to do something. So we often protest things by detailing what’s wrong, and what’s not working, and […]

There’s Power In Our Perceptions

As a single parent of three sons, the license plate on my car read BOYSNI, because most of my statements seemed to begin with, “The boys ’n I….” But after seven years, my girlfriend said to me, “Grace, if you don’t lose that license plate, […]

My Main Takeaway From Visiting Patmos

On a trip to Greece several years ago, Ron and I island-hopped, which meant arriving without a reservation for a place to stay, with just a small backpack and one other set of clothes – and using ferries to sail between the islands, where entrepreneur-ish […]

10 Things Good Communicators Do Well

1. THEY MAINTAIN THEIR INTEGRITY Effective communicators know what their true intention is. And they hold that focus, instead of doing something else. Ron was an altar boy in the Catholic church from age seven to seventeen. Toward the end, he felt disheartened, believing that […]

Marathon Communicating With Our Children

Many cultures use rituals during the adolescence and teen years to mark the time when children transition to becoming responsible for themselves. When my son turned thirteen, I asked two-dozen of our friends who had known him throughout his life to write their memories and encouraging […]

Gifting And Getting Feedback

I was sitting in our yard one day when my seven-year-old son came out of the house and sat beside me. I kept looking at his face, thinking something looked different. Then I realized he’d shaved off his eyebrows. And I was really at a […]

What Other People Think Of Us Is Their Business

One evening, Ron and I were having dinner with friends in Amsterdam. And we were sharing extraordinary experiences from our years at university. I described the time that my dorm-mates and I borrowed a car, cut classes and drove 500 miles through the night to […]