All posts tagged: Relationships

How To Get Our Partners To Care What We Want

One of my friends believes that her husband should have more photos of her on his social media site, and she feels bad about it. Her mistake is in thinking that those two things are connected – his action and her feeling – because attaching […]

3 Steps For Training Win-Win Relationships

One of my friends is stuck in a years-long pattern with his wife. She talks over him while he’s talking, especially in front of their friends. He can’t stand it and protests by saying, “I won’t put up with this! You can’t treat me like […]

20 Keys For Transforming A “Difficult” Relationship

“Difficult” relationships are about self-worth and self-love – ours, not theirs. We’ve set causes in motion, and we’re experiencing the results. So our problems aren’t originating outside of us. Our partners aren’t broken, and it’s not our job to fix them. Relating is similar to […]

5 Steps For Fighting Fair

Conflict is normal in relationships, and perfect compatibility only happens in fairytales. But knowing how to fight fair can lead us to a happy ending. The first requirement is a supportive environment. So we need to make two agreements right up front. First, that a […]

Finding Love Is An Inside Job

Soon after my husband and I met, when we were just becoming acquainted as friends, I felt nauseas one day. Ron’s a doctor, and he wanted to help. So he offered to stick his finger down my throat to make me throw up. “Wow!” I thought. […]

Every Argument Begins With The Second Sentence

One of our most valuable tools in relating with others is the ability to argue effectively. And even before red-hot issues reach the level of an argument, there are steps we can take for handling conflict, including three necessary elements for reaching resolution. The first […]

10 Things Good Communicators Do Well

1. They maintain their integrity. Effective communicators know what their true intention is. And they hold that focus, instead of doing something else. My husband, Ron, was an altar boy in the Catholic church from age seven to seventeen. Toward the end, he felt disheartened, […]

Love And Jealousy Can’t Coexist

One of my friends has a husband who adores her, and he’s loyal to his core. But she feels jealous and tries to control him. So he behaves cautiously. He avoids being alone with women and avoids talking to them in her presence. But because […]