“Difficult” relationships are about self-worth and self-love – ours, not theirs. We’ve set causes in motion, and we’re experiencing the results. So our problems aren’t originating outside of us. Our partners aren’t broken, and it’s not our job to fix them. Relating is similar to […]
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5 Steps For Fighting Fair
Conflict is normal in relationships, and perfect compatibility only happens in fairytales. But knowing how to fight fair can lead us to a happy ending. The first requirement is a supportive environment. So we need to make two agreements right up front. First, that a […]
Finding Love Is An Inside Job
Soon after Ron and I met, when we were just becoming acquainted as friends, I felt nauseas one day. Ron’s a doctor, and he wanted to help. So he offered to stick his finger down my throat to make me throw up. “Wow!” I thought. “This […]
“If You Leave Me Tonight, Do You Mind If I Come With You?”
Breakups are often heartbreaking, with inevitable feelings of pain and loss. We often want to hold on, even when it’s not good for us. Being with the person can seem more appealing than being alone. When a couple shares love, respect and kindness born out […]
Cross My Heart And Hope To Die!
When Ron’s daughter was ten, she walked into a local restaurant in our town in the Netherlands and asked the Greek owner whether he would sell her an over-sized wooden rosary that he’d brought from his homeland and hung behind the sales register. She knew […]
Love Is Like A Marathon
Our daughter-in-law qualified for the Boston Marathon by running in a local marathon, just making it, by an amazing three seconds! She was really hurting the last five miles. A stranger saw her and began to walk-run alongside her, subtly encouraging her. She could hardly […]
15 Keys For Loving And Being Loved
In every interaction, whether we’re creating a special dinner or starting an argument, we’re searching for an opportunity to share love. Whether we love ourselves affects everything else in life, including our relationships, career, finances and health. Loving ourselves means not holding someone else responsible […]
Why Romance Phase Doesn’t Last
During romance phase, life is perfect for everyone. We’re on our best behavior, because we want to impress each other. We begin the relationship thinking, “It makes me feel so good when you adore and appreciate me. So I’m going to show you only my […]
Grace de Rond 