All posts tagged: Beliefs

Being Deliberately Conscious

One of my friends lost out on a promotion at work and felt betrayed by his company. Then he went on and on about being abused, because he didn’t want anyone to forget what had happened to him. And if anyone encouraged him to consider […]

We’re All In This Together

One of my best friends rode around for more than a year with our mutual friend’s ashes in the trunk of her car, in a Styrofoam food container, sealed with masking tape, marked “Jim.” She was waiting for the perfect opportunity to scatter Jim’s ashes […]

10 Things Good Communicators Do Well

1. They maintain their integrity. Effective communicators know what their true intention is. And they hold that focus, instead of doing something else. My husband, Ron, was an altar boy in the Catholic church from age seven to seventeen. Toward the end, he felt disheartened, […]

Why Guilt Doesn’t Work

The summer that I was nine, I begged my parents to let me attend our church’s residential camp. The requirement for a discounted rate was to read The New Testament by a certain date, so I committed to do it. I procrastinated for weeks and […]

We Teach People How To Treat Us

We’re constantly training people in how to treat us. When we show them that a certain word or look from them will get a consistent reaction from us, we’re training them to use that word or look whenever they want that reaction. And when we’ve […]

10 Keys For Managing Beliefs

Life will be as wonderful or as terrible as we believe it is. Our daily lives are the result of what we tell ourselves. Our attitudes develop out of the thoughts we choose. Beliefs are just thoughts we repeat until they seem true. If we […]

What Other People Think Of Us Is Their Business

One evening, Ron and I were having dinner with friends in Amsterdam. And we were sharing extraordinary experiences from our years at university. I described the time that my dorm-mates and I borrowed a car, cut classes and drove 500 miles through the night to […]

Why Worrying Doesn’t Work

When my son was five, he received a set of Worry Dolls as a present. He decided to keep the tiny decorative box and throw away the dolls so he would have no worries. Worrying is the most practiced form of meditation in the world […]

10 Keys For Living Prosperously

What we have, wear or drive doesn’t make us rich. What we believe about our deservability, including what we tell ourselves about what we already have, has a bigger impact on our prosperity than how much we have. If we perceive ourselves as rich or […]