One of my friends lost out on a promotion at work and felt betrayed by his company. Then he kept talking about being abused, because he didn’t want anyone to forget what had happened to him. And if anyone encouraged him to consider a different […]
All posts tagged: Beliefs
“If You’d Change, I’d Feel Better.”
On a trip to Spain a few years ago, Ron and I landed in Madrid and went straight to the car rental desk, where the employee who was helping us looked at Ron’s full name on his passport and laughed out loud. Then she got […]
We’re All In This Together
One of my best friends rode around for more than a year with our mutual friend’s ashes in the trunk of her car, in a Styrofoam food container, sealed with masking tape, marked “Jim.” She was waiting for the perfect opportunity to scatter Jim’s ashes […]
Our “Terrible Twos” May’ve Been Worse Than We Think
Our toddler grandson runs up and down the hall just for the joy of running. He revels in getting a spoon of food to his mouth. He shoves sounds together into sentences and beams at his own success. He hasn’t figured out yet that anything […]
10 Things Good Communicators Do Well
1. THEY MAINTAIN THEIR INTEGRITY Effective communicators know what their true intention is. And they hold that focus, instead of doing something else. Ron was an altar boy in the Catholic church from age seven to seventeen. Toward the end, he felt disheartened, believing that […]
Why Guilt Doesn’t Work
The summer that I was nine, I begged my parents to let me attend our church’s residential camp. The requirement for a discounted rate was to read The New Testament by a certain date, so I committed to do it. I procrastinated for weeks and […]
We Teach People How To Treat Us
We’re constantly training people in how to treat us. When we show them that a certain word or look from them will get a consistent reaction from us, we’re training them to use that word or look whenever they want that reaction. And when we’ve […]
10 Keys For Managing Beliefs
Life will be as wonderful or as terrible as we believe it is. Our daily lives are the result of what we tell ourselves. Our attitudes develop out of the thoughts we choose. Beliefs are just thoughts we repeat until they seem true. If we […]
What Other People Think Of Us Is Their Business
One evening, Ron and I were having dinner with friends in Amsterdam. And we were sharing extraordinary experiences from our years at university. I described the time that my dorm-mates and I borrowed a car, cut classes and drove 500 miles through the night to […]
Prosperity Is Not How Expensive Our Zip Code Is
What we believe about our deservability, and what we tell ourselves about what we have, has a bigger effect on our prosperity than how much we have. Prosperity is not a matter of how much money we have or how many possessions we own. Many […]
Why Worrying Doesn’t Work
When my son was five, he received a set of Worry Dolls as a present. He decided to keep the tiny decorative box and throw away the dolls so he would have no worries. Worrying is the most practiced form of meditation in the world […]
10 Keys For Living Prosperously
What we have, wear or drive doesn’t make us rich. What we believe about our deservability, including what we tell ourselves about what we already have, has a bigger impact on our prosperity than how much we have. If we perceive ourselves as rich or […]
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